It took me far too long to pick up and read this book. Every time I picked it up to read, I enjoyed it greatly. The things I’ve learned from this book have been truly Awesome, by the definition of the word Awesome.
Learning that the actions of others are merely a refection of their own internal struggle. I learned that my own “issues” with others are things I don’t like within me. It is a simple matter of identifying it, owning up to it, and then resolving it within.
When I see my brothers place, I have an issue with it being a mess. I do this because I know he is capable of cleaning it. The real issue is I have a messy place and know full well, I am capable of cleaning it. So when I see it with him, I’m really identifying it with me.
I have learned to enjoy the simple things of the here and now. I sat at the park not to long ago, right after finishing this book. I felt the sun beat down on me. I felt the wind blowing on me I could feel the bench underneath me. How my legs were crossed, I could hear the sound of the wind blowing, along with people in different parts of the park talking. I sat there not thinking about anything, just feeling and sensing the world around me. I started to smile and feel so much bliss I almost burst out laughing.
Unreasonable happiness! That is, happiness for no reason at all.
I was living in the moment and it was Great!
I watch the son of a close friend of mine who I have talked about before. I love that kid so much! I have unwittingly learned so much from him that is found in this book. He is one of the happiest people on the planet. Because he has yet to “learn” the “reasons” not to be.
I watched him two days last week and was worried about where to go with him and what to do. I foolishly thought I had to out do the last time I watched him. What I started to realize the second day of watching him was, he didn’t really care about that. All he wanted was to be with me.
That is true love right there. I have learned what it really means to have unconditional love from my pet Yorkie. She loves me for no definable reason. And the same goes for this little kid, who I lovingly refer to as my little punk.
Both days that I watched him, he tried to leave with me after his mom got home and I was heading out. Both times she had to hold him while I left. She told me earlier the second day that he doesn’t like giving her hugs or kisses goodbye, but that night shortly before leaving, he first hands me four of his string cheese sticks and tells me to keep them in my fridge for him (which I have, and they are still there). Then he waits for me to pick him up to give him a hug.
That love has made the world of difference for me. As it has for him.
As the book talks about, I have watched him get upset and emote his feelings. Once he goes through his feelings, he is good again. I have caught myself feeling something like anger or disgust after reading an article or seeing something I don’t like, and then move on without a care. Feeling your emotions, expressing them, and then letting them go.
The last lesson of the book was very eye opening. You don’t have to do what the character does to appreciate the lesson. The perspective you gain is incredible. The understanding that what we do in this life holds as much meaning as we put in.
The feelings and thoughts we have are only as powerful as we make them. There is no point to dwelling on the past. It has happened and is over with. There is no point in worrying about the future, it hasn’t happened yet. The only way to make the future what we want is to be here and now. Make every action count and keep every thought focused on what you really want.
This book has taught me more than I could have hoped for. Because of this young mother and her son, I now understand and realize this quote:
“The Sword of The Peaceful Warrior is LOVE.” ~~ Gary Amirault
It’s the love I feel for them, and myself, that made understanding and reading this book possible. It is that love that I now carry with me to face every battle. I have so much more to learn, but I have a good starting point on it and I will continue on my journey. Now I know that whatever I do, as long as I give it my all, stay mindful every step of the way, Nothing can stop me from reaching my goals.